Hello all~
I'm back with another post, detailing all the bits and bobs I've been thinking about since... well, pretty much since I got engaged, really!
A LOT goes into a wedding. I get that. I'm starting to realize that the more reading and asking around I do. Catering, venues, dresses, colors/themes... Questions such as, "Are there any dresses that I'll look decent in without looking fat and bulky?" or "My bridesmaids should look good in spring green or aquamarine blue... right?" and my personal favorite as of late: "Should we even bother with a venue? There won't be many people there."
I know I'll answer those questions along the way as my wedding date isn't til early 2016, so until then, here are the ones I've answered for myself personally.
Are you having a theme? What colors are you going with?
This was the first thing that came to mind, to be perfectly honest. (And I kind of unintentionally spoiled what they'd be a paragraph or two ago.) I'd been walking around Hobby Lobby with my future mother and sister-in-law looking at things for her wedding to get ideas. My mother-in-law owns a pet clothing business on Etsy, so of course a waltz down the fabric aisle was a must. I glanced over numerous bolts of fabric and -- BAZINGA (kudos if you get the reference, FYI), I found something amazing. It was a sort of whimsical white Paisely-type print over a medium-aqua color that faded into a light spring green. It just so happens that not only are those two of MY favorite colors, but Casey's as well. Not to mention that I feel blues and greens are colors of life, vitality and renewal. Sucker for subtle symbolism.
Those colors brought to mind my theme the moment I saw them: lagoon. Somewhere warm and slightly tropical. Perfect for a winter wedding theme because Lord knows we'll all wanna be somewhere warmer next year! Also, I got some neat ideas from that theme to put into the decorations. Nothing gaudy like bright flowers and palm trees everywhere, but something elegant and understated. (I'm forming ideas as we go, so I'll be sure to detail more of them along the way.)
What traditions will you be keeping about your wedding?
As far as traditions that I know of, I'll be planning on all the basic proceedings in the ceremony: presentation of the wedding party, the procession, the vows, etc. We'll be having an early dinner reception to follow it, where we'll have the first dance, cake cutting... yada yada! You get the main picture, right?
However, there are a few common traditions we'll be omitting for our wedding. Bare in mind, we've talked about these together and agree that it's just not what we want.
No bridal shower or bachelorette parties for me.
I have moderate to severe social anxiety. It's not that I don't love my friends and future family members, but I simply can't handle having so much attention put onto myself for an extended amount of time. As a kid, I couldn't even handle going to parties with friends without hanging around corners by myself or clawing to escape the front door all after the first hour. I'm really not that fun to be around when I feel trapped, so I'm just gonna forgo it.
No alcohol at the wedding.
I come from a family that made up occasions just to drink and never could handle it well; Casey comes from a family that doesn't drink hardly at all; he and I don't really drink because of that, so we're gonna pass on the alcohol.
I will be walking down the aisle by myself.
I elaborated on my Facebook a bit better as to why I'm walking by myself and why I wasn't inviting my family to the wedding. To keep it short and sweet: Because I want to. My father was not a patriarch. He was barely even a decent human being. After all I went through with him, my father doesn't deserve to be at my wedding. The rest of my living family doesn't either. My sister and I were cast out thanks to my mother and they let that factor in to whether or not we're a part of the family? Yeah, not gonna open that can of worms much further, either. My walk down the aisle will be my own personal celebration of having come this far, practically raising myself and being raised by those I've met in life. And they'll be the ones surrounding me at the wedding, not my blood relatives.
I think that's about everything... OH WAIT. The most important part, duh!
We'll be having the 'unofficial ceremony' on a weekend.
Let me briefly explain what I mean by unofficial ceremony. The date we have our eyes on falls on a Monday. Our solution was to do the celebrating of us (if that's the alternate name to give it) on the Sunday before it and do all of our wedding things then. So then on that Monday, we'll just go down to the courthouse and get officially married on our preferred date. That way we can say we had a proper wedding and still get the date we want. The only thing that really changes is that we won't have an officiant to say we got married on Sunday... because we'll be doing that the day after in front of the judge.
If anyone has any questions or comments to make, please feel free to leave them below or shoot me a Facebook message.
Til next time!
-- Katie
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